Supporters of Proposition 8 — California's ban on same-sex marriage — say they feel encouraged by Monday's ruling from a federal court, which put gay marriages on indefinite hold while the case moves to appeal. But for gay couples who were planning to wed Wednesday, it was another disappointing delay.
A lower court judge cleared the way last week for same-sex marriages to resume at 5 p.m. Wednesday. But supporters of California's same-sex marriage ban immediately went to the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals, which granted a request to put gay marriages on hold while the case is on appeal.
Thea Lavin had been set to marry her partner in San Francisco Wednesday evening. "When you've been waiting your whole life to get civil rights, and be able to marry the person that you love, a few more months or another year doesn't feel that long," she says. "We can wait until this is resolved, but I hope it doesn't take that long."
Lavin and other couples could be waiting for months, even years, as the case runs its course, says Erwin Chemerinsky, dean of the University of California, Irvine School of Law.That's from Karen Grigsby Bates' report for All Things Considered (NPR). Yesterday I told you I was ignoring the story because I found it and the judge's actions too depressing. Turns out it was "judges" -- a panel not just one. That's even more depressing. That means there was a discussion on the issue. And even with that, it was decided my rights are secondary and only matter if straight people want to give me full citizenship.
Thank you to Judge Vaughn Walker for saying I was a citizen, with all the rights of any other citizen. Even with the 9th Circuit's decision, I still appreciate that Judge Walker saw me and others as real people with real rights.
I wonder if people appreciate that? If you're straight, you have rights. They are your rights. If someone tries to take them away, you can sue them in court. But, for the most part, no one tries to take away your rights.
Say your straight Bob. No one's trying to stop you from marrying the person you fall in love with.
As gay people we have to wait and wait for straight people to decide we're 'worthy' of rights.
Look at the Prop 8 backers. None of them are being told: You must marry someone of the same-sex.
Judge Walker was right, those people have no claims, it doesn't effect them.
It does effect the LGBT community, it does effect me.
But from Judge Walker's wonderful, life-affirming verdict, we're now yet again having to hope and pray that someone will say, "Well, I guess we can give you those rights . . ."
I'm not really happy tonight.
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